check ‘tiz thing out!

THE PREMISE of this article lies on the principle
that sometimes, loving a person doesn’t mean it
has to be romantic and loving a person for the
rest of your life doesn’t mean you have to end up
marrying them. Can a man and a woman just be
friends? I’d say yes and they should be.

Hindi dahil kinaibigan ka, liligawan ka na. Not
every guy who befriends you has an ulterior
motive. Get over yourself. Don’t flatter
yourself. There is a reason why he befriended
you, but don’t automatically assume that it’s
because he wants to be your so-called boyfriend.
If this will be the principle you’ll follow every
time someone asks you to be his friend, you’re
gonna miss a great deal from the friendship.

Hindi dahil mabait sa iyo, nililigawan ka na.
There are people who are naturally sweet and
kind. There are people who are innately good and
no matter how wicked you seem, they just find it
so easy to be kind to you. It doesn’t mean he is
courting you. Don’t put yourself through
unnecessary stress trying to figure out if he’s
courting you or not. Because I think if he is,
you won’t have to guess, you’ll know and you’ll
be very certain about it.

Hindi dahil he talks to you a lot, he loves you
na. You don’t befriend a person if you absolutely
abhor him, right? Chances are you make sense when
he talks to you, or you’re probably very patient
listening to him. The two of you probably connect
on some level but why does it always have to be
assumed to be romantic? Being two intelligent,
mature human beings, you need to accept that it’s
nice to share a cup of coffee over a stimulating
conversation, and that you don’t have to
automatically put romantic connotation to it.
Relieve yourself of the pressure. It’s just
coffee and a shared interest.

Hindi dahil cute ang friend mo, crush/love mo na
siya. This is the most amusing thing that hit me
lately. People always assume that because your
friend is cute or should I say, hot (because cute
is a word you describe your high school crush
while hot is a word you use to describe a
hunk), "lakas amats mo na for repapips!" Let me
just say this, at least from my own personal
experience, I’m just nearsighted, I haven’t gone
blind. I can still appreciate God’s creation!
However, there will always be weird things, crazy
things, stupid things that will keep you, believe
me, from having a crush on him. First of all,
you’d know his history with women, enough to
judge what’s good for you. Second, don’t you just
hate it when a guy who’s absolutely always put
together, who looks intelligent enough pronounces
the word country as "kawntri" and the word mango
as "meynggo." Call me crazy for judging a person
just because he can’t pronounce these words
right. I admit, I’m crazy.

(continued in part 2)

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